Why are you getting married? How do you and your partner communicate?
How do you resolve conflicts and arguments? What do you expect your marriage roles to be like?
What are your specific goals for the future? What is your plan as a couple to reach your goals?
What kind of family atmosphere did your partner grow up in? What are the weaknesses and strengths of your relationship?
The Perfect Wedding
Finding the perfect dress, choosing a wedding cake, guest list, reserving the reception location, decorating the church, flowers, the wedding party, the rings, paying for the wedding, making our parents happy….so much time, money, and effort goes into the planning of a perfect wedding!
But, how much time, money, and effort goes into the planning of a perfect marriage? Of course we all know there is no such thing as a perfect marriage because there is no such thing as perfect people (we usually find that out after we get married).
All We Need Is Love
Love is essential, but sometimes we think love is all we need and we can hurt ourselves and our loved ones if we do not take time to develop relational intimacy together, and address any issues in a relationship before we commit ourselves to for a lifetime in marriage.
Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a trained facilitator of the Prepare-Enrich couples counseling program. Prepare-Enrich helps couples prepare for a life time together by addressing key areas of a relationship before they get married. In addition, Dr. Hollenbeck is Certified in Sex Therapy, Sex Addiction Therapy, EMDR, and Anger Management to address individual issues as well as couple issues prior to making the important decision to get married.
Premarital Counseling usually consists of 8-10 weeks of 1 hour sessions per week. You and your fiancé will individually take an online assessment and a report will be produced based on your individual answers in relation to the following scales:
12 Relationship Scales — communication, conflict resolution, roles, sexuality, finances, spiritual beliefs, and more
5 SCOPE Personality Scales
4 Couple and Family Scales — based on Circumplex Model
4 Relationship Dynamic Scales
30 Customized Scales
Next, you and your fiancée will be given workbooks with assignments to do together outside of the counseling sessions. In the sessions, you both will experience a safe and confidential setting to grow your relational skills and communicate successfully about any issues needing to be addressed including the following:
Identify strengths and growth areas & Explore personality traits
Strengthen communication skills & Resolve conflicts & Reduce stress
Share spiritual beliefs & Compare family backgrounds
Comfortably discuss finances & Establish personal, couple, and family goals
Why not make Premarital Counseling an addition to planning the perfect wedding!